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Playing Catch-Up After the Holidays

Written by: Dian (Solo Momma) 1/17/2006 12:00:00 AM
"I’m having a really hard time catching up after the holidays this year.

There are literally piles of paperwork on my desk -- lots of it priority and overdue -- my budget is unstable, the house is not yet back in order, I haven't exercised in weeks, my entire schedule is out the window, and I ‘m too exhausted to do much to fix any of it!

I've spoken to lots of people about this -- solo and married friends. It's a common theme, which is validating – it isn’t just me. I didn’t "screw up," at least no more than anyone else did. This allows me to relax a little, and be just a little more gentle with myself.

If it’s hard for my married friends to catch up at this time of year, obviously it’s that much harder for me, a single parent.

Us single moms do not have it easy, but we’re still standing, and we’re OK! I pray for all of us, and applaud our collective strength, every single day.

I take a deep breath and remind myself that stress comes and goes (mostly comes). The most important thing is how I handle myself in these moments – I need to make extra efforts slow down, take deep breaths often, get quiet time, and speak kindly to my kids, the people around me, and to myself! I need to give my 21 year-old son an extra phone call, my 14 year-old beautiful daughter an extra smile, and my winsome 8 year-old little guy an extra hug for every ounce of stress I feel – our children are the most healing things we have in our lives!

I take another deep breath and remind myself that I am not running the country, just one tiny household. I can do what absolutely must be done today, and leave the rest for tomorrow (or the next day!).

On my third deep breath, I remind myself that 2006 is the year I resolved to take better care of Dian, have more fun, more rest, and more real time with my kids -- who will be grown and gone very soon!

So....one plodding step at a time, I will catch up. Hopefully before the holidays come around again.

In the meantime, I think I’ll take the kids to the zoo this weekend (Bronx Zoo in my case) – check out the zoo review in solo momma links if you’d like to do the same.

Hang in there!
 




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